I have written in my post about Gabriel about disclosing my TS to him. I got a considerable amount of advice from two other women with TS who are in long term relationships before doing this.
Of course the moment you tell a person you are interested in forming a relationship with about your TS, you are showing that you are serious about your future. So it is a tricky balance! You risk putting someone off if you tell them too early as they may not be at a point where they want to think about things that seriously but you also risk the relationship if you leave it until things have become serious. I know at least one case where this occurred.
Interestingly sometimes good relationships have been formed when the other party has known about your TS for while so there is no need for disclosure.
Ultimately women with TS have to judge the situation in each relationship for themselves. However it is important that we all remember that we should not feel inferior or that we will be automatically rejected once we disclose. In the end, if it is an issue for your prospective partner, it is THEIR issue not yours.
A relationship will succeed or fail on any number of reasons. Undeniably issues around reproduction/children are significant. However many couples have to face these issues, often completely unexpectedly. In some ways it can be easier to know that there is an issue and deal with it from the point that a relationship get serious.
The good news is that there a lot of great partners out there who are supportive and in the relationship for the long term.
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